If you do not know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else. Thinking refers to the act of producing thoughts. Thoughts can either be positive or negative in nature. Positive thoughts lean towards problem-solving behavior. Conversely, negative thoughts find expression in excuses for failure and in avoiding problem-solving behavior. In a similar vein, thoughts range between two extremes: autistic and realistic thinking. Autistic thinking is determined mainly by the fulfillment of one’s needs, wishes, and feelings. In short, it operates on the “pleasure principle” – the seeking of pleasure and the avoidance of pain.
On the other hand, realistic thinking is determined largely by the demands of the situation. It is directed towards action or the solution of a problem, and thinking at this level follows the “reality principle” more – the regulation of behavior according to the demands of the outside world.
How to develop positive thinking
The first step to developing positive thinking is to think and act with a positive attitude towards life. This means that you should act purposely: you should have a definite purpose and direction in life. The next step is to think reasonably; that is you should be reasonable and understanding in everything that you do. In so doing you will begin to have more positive thoughts about yourself. This in turn will enable you to view and regard others in the same positive light.
Finally,
you should never underestimate yourself or others. You should be confident of
your abilities and potentials. Likewise, you should not look down on others as
well. Remember that no one is born perfect. The following points will serve as
guidelines for developing positive thought. They do not follow a hierarchical
order, so feel free to explore the infinite possibilities that each offer:
01. Indulge in honest self-evaluation
02. Accept others as they are
03. Always evaluate behavior within situational frameworks
04. be confident in yourself and in your abilities
05. Do not look down upon others
06. Respect the abilities of others
07. Welcome and appreciate healthy criticisms
08. Do not indulge in backbiting
09. Appreciate your physical being
10. Be a good listener and pay attention when others speak
11. Spend your time doing constructive things
12. Clear your mind of polluted thoughts
13. Enjoy life
14. There is always a second chance
15. be honest and appreciate honesty
16. Learn to accept mistakes
17. Avoid suppressing your feelings
18. Do not let your heart rule your head
19. Accept challenges
20. Learn to be independent
21. Do not make
lame excuses
22. Be kind to others
23. Do not think that you are indispensable